It’s tempting to live your life in a way that won’t upset anyone... Never calling anyone out for not treating you right, allowing people to walk all over you because you don’t want to cause drama, living untrue to who you are because you don’t want to break your spouse/families hearts... to smile and laugh and agree with all. the. things. so that you feel like you’re being seen, heard and approved of and not, heaven forbid, disappointing someone.
But I guarantee you that doing all those things and betraying yourSELF constantly will never bring you happiness. A life well-lived is not one in which you ignore your heart to please others. It is a life where you bravely choose to not betray yourself even if it means upsetting others.
You can’t be afraid to disappoint someone more than you’re afraid to disappoint yourself. You can’t be afraid to lose someone more than you’re afraid to lose yourself.
I can tell you right now that upsetting people, disappointing people and even losing relationships is painful but nothing should be more painful than ignoring yourSELF to be loved. You shouldn’t feel the need to perform and constantly prove yourself for love. You shouldn’t feel scared to set boundaries or to be your true self.
Living a life where you never upset anyone is a life where you are betraying yourself. It’s a life that will fill you with a resentment that will hide itself as depression/anxiety/self-hate. It will stroke your ego to get all of that external validation but I PROMISE YOU, it will bruise your soul.
The only way to freedom is to start listening to YOU and following that inner voice at all cost. To accept that not everyone will understand you OR LIKE YOU! But, can you imagine the freedom that would come if you could give up the control of trying to manipulate other people’s opinions of you by changing who you are AND JUST LIVE! ✨ Live true to what your heart calls you to do and to be who you are without fear. Ultimate goal in life? 🤔
Just remember NOTHING really matters except for how YOU view YOURSELF. That is what is real. Everyone else’s thoughts of who you are mean nothing. Once you truly grasp that and KNOW that, you’ll be free. ✨😘